Readers, please send your letters. They can be emails, formal letters or handwritten notes. They are edited solely for grammar and spelling. Also, they are sometimes edited for length.
Dear Doctor Love
I have a girlfriend for six months and I am serious about our relationship. What I don’t like is that we argue sometimes. I know this is normal but when we argue she gets sarcastic and her tongue is sharp like a knife. English is not my first language so a lot of times I don’t even understand what she is saying until it is too late to come back with a good answer. Because of this I have a lot of opinions that never get said. I am wondering if she is not the right girl for me. Right now I don’t have any other girls in mind so I’m not sure what to do. Can you help?
/s/ Misunderstood
Dear Misunderstood,
Sarcasm is a wonderful conversational tool that can cut like a knife. Listening to two sarcastic people in an argument can be like watching two ballroom dancers. However, like dancing, sarcasm requires a partner of equal skill. Otherwise it is like trying to beat a bulldog with a piece of spaghetti. No matter how hard you strike him with the spaghetti the dog will only be annoyed and wonder what the hell you are doing.
The short answer for you is “drop her”. She does not want to solve a problem. Instead, all she wants to do is win the argument no matter what.
Dear Doctor,
My husband and I have a group of friends that we went to school with. On weekends we like to get together and barbecue or go out dancing. I just found out that my very good friend’s husband is cheating on her. I happened to be walking up to my husband to ask him a question and I heard him talking to another friend about it. When we got home I asked my husband. He said they were just talking about something they heard. I wanted to call my friend right then and tell her but my husband told me to mind my own business. I don’t want her to be hurt. I think I should call her. Please advise me.
/s/ Good Friend
Dear Friend,
Do you have pictures of the cheating couple together? Emails? Love letters? Have you seen them out with each other? No? Until you do, the possible affair is simply a rumor. The best advice for you is to listen to your husband. If it is true do you think the information will hurt less just because it is coming from you? Drop it.
