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Dear Doctor Love,
My friend is in her mid-forties. We came to Belize on vacation earlier this year. On the flight back to the U.S. we met a man who is from the same small city that we are from. He and my friend started dating and they are already planning to get married around Christmas time. My friend and I are down here on a last vacation before they tie the knot.
Her fiancé is an attractive man who has his own business and in our city a lot of people know him. It is true that he is successful but the word I hear is that he has been bankrupt twice before. He has also had several relationships that ended suddenly. A guy I know says he saw him at a strip club.
I am worried for my friend and I’m wondering if I should warn her or let her find out the hard way. I have a bad feeling about this whole thing. What should I do?
/s/ Concerned
Dear Concerned,
What you should do is nothing. It’s not your business. Some of the world’s great businessmen have been bankrupt many times before they found success. In the search for Ms. Right a lot of men have been involved with many Ms. Wrongs. He could have been at the strip club for a bachelor party. Besides, what was the person that told you about it doing at the strip club? If you were looking for dirt on Mother Teresa you could probably find some. If not, someone would certainly be willing to make some up.
This is none of your business. Leave it alone.
Dear Doctor Love,
I have a brother who is two years younger than me. I am nineteen years old, living at home, working and going to college. My parents have always favored my brother over me and I feel like I am not being treated fairly. They give him money a lot of times and pay for a special tutor to help him in school.
They never did this kind of thing for me. What can I tell them to let them know they are not being fair with me?
/s/ Big Sister
Dear Sister,
This is a fact. Most boys mature later than girls of the same age. Your parents probably help him more because he is not as independent or as mature as you are. His needs are different from yours, too.
Enjoy and appreciate the support that you are getting.
